We all have a story—the ongoing narrative that helps us make sense of who we are, what matters, and where we’re going. But too often, our story is written by habit, pain, or fear, instead of conscious reflection. In Fully Human/Fully Alive, Lyle Simpson challenges us: what if, instead of being passive characters, we became the courageous authors of our own lives?
Facing “the big questions” isn’t just a philosophical exercise, but a profound act of self-liberation. Questions like “What truly matters?”; “Whom do I love?”; “What do I stand for?”—are invitations to step beyond old assumptions. Simpson suggests that by wrestling with such queries, you can transform your limiting scripts of victimhood, inadequacy, or confusion into powerful narratives of growth and hope.
But it’s not about finding final, tidy answers. The process is just as valuable as the destination. By engaging with uncertainty—by being willing not to know—you become more curious, more open, and, paradoxically, more secure. Instead of fearing change or hardship, you start to see your entire life as a journey of becoming.
Simpson notes that this work is difficult but deeply rewarding. It takes discipline to self-reflect regularly; it requires courage to rewrite stories that used to keep you safe; and it’s humbling to recognize that your answers will change as you evolve.
Here’s a practical step: start journaling around one “big question” each week, without rushing to fix or finalize your thinking. Notice where old stories no longer fit, and ask what new chapter you might want to write next. Talk with friends who are also open to deep exploration; seek out books or mentors who challenge and inspire you.
By claiming authority over your personal story—and by keeping the narrative fluid and open—you step into agency and authenticity. Your life will not be perfect, but it will be yours, fully engaged with both joy and struggle. It’s in the courageous asking, not just the answering, that we become fully human and fully alive.